A lot of the younger guys here call me bro or mate, I don't get offended as I don't think any offence is meant, actually, it makes me feel included in their friend circle. Sometimes people call me dear, darling or honey/hun which is a bit odd and patronising although if it is a close friend it is totally fine. Context is everything...Most people just call me Rosie or QRM which is a safe enough bet. If in doubt, username or real name. Then there are the English terms Love/Luv and Me Duck although not so common here ;) And then some of my mates call me f------ b*tch but only after they get mated ;p also totally fine :D
@QueenRosieMary said in #31:
> A lot of the younger guys here call me bro or mate, I don't get offended as I don't think any offence is meant, actually, it makes me feel included in their friend circle. Sometimes people call me dear, darling or honey/hun which is a bit odd and patronising although if it is a close friend it is totally fine. Context is everything...Most people just call me Rosie or QRM which is a safe enough bet. If in doubt, username or real name. Then there are the English terms Love/Luv and Me Duck although not so common here ;) And then some of my mates call me f------ b*tch but only after they get mated ;p also totally fine :D
I mean if they're southern they call everything hun :p
> A lot of the younger guys here call me bro or mate, I don't get offended as I don't think any offence is meant, actually, it makes me feel included in their friend circle. Sometimes people call me dear, darling or honey/hun which is a bit odd and patronising although if it is a close friend it is totally fine. Context is everything...Most people just call me Rosie or QRM which is a safe enough bet. If in doubt, username or real name. Then there are the English terms Love/Luv and Me Duck although not so common here ;) And then some of my mates call me f------ b*tch but only after they get mated ;p also totally fine :D
I mean if they're southern they call everything hun :p
@kit_kat1122 said in #30:
> are you looking for something to call a friend, or a love interest? it kinda depends on that
Ahem, what if it's a love interest?
> are you looking for something to call a friend, or a love interest? it kinda depends on that
Ahem, what if it's a love interest?
@QueenRosieMary said in #31:
> I don't get offended as I don't think any offence is meant, actually, it makes me feel included in their friend circle.
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That's the point, isn't it? What is the nature of the relationship that the form of address implies? If it's one of collegiality, respect and acceptance, and the address is clearly understood in that context, pretty much anything will do. Respect and disrespect are to be found in what is done as well as what is said.
Of course, an attempt to be welcoming can backfire if the assumption of familiarity is perceived as patronizing. That's something I'm probably guilty of from time to time. But at my age, not many women think I'm nosing around for a date. Still, I should be better with names than I am.
> I don't get offended as I don't think any offence is meant, actually, it makes me feel included in their friend circle.
<snipped quite a bit just to focus on this>
That's the point, isn't it? What is the nature of the relationship that the form of address implies? If it's one of collegiality, respect and acceptance, and the address is clearly understood in that context, pretty much anything will do. Respect and disrespect are to be found in what is done as well as what is said.
Of course, an attempt to be welcoming can backfire if the assumption of familiarity is perceived as patronizing. That's something I'm probably guilty of from time to time. But at my age, not many women think I'm nosing around for a date. Still, I should be better with names than I am.
@ForumPoster4242 said in #33:
> Ahem, what if it's a love interest?
I mean I personally like it when "he" calls me a unique nickname no one else uses, it makes me feel really special
> Ahem, what if it's a love interest?
I mean I personally like it when "he" calls me a unique nickname no one else uses, it makes me feel really special
&woman could be called pointress
@greenteakitten said in #11:
> I either call people by name or just don't call them anything. Simplest way, no? ;)
That said, I get called "dude" and "bro" most often on Lichess, after all, chess sites are usually male dominant, and I don't mind it!
I actually prefer it over sis, darling, babygirl, honey, etc. all of which I tend to associate more with flirting - but then again, every person is different and some may be fine with things that others aren't. I let my close friends call me things I would never let anyone else call me, for example :)
> I either call people by name or just don't call them anything. Simplest way, no? ;)
That said, I get called "dude" and "bro" most often on Lichess, after all, chess sites are usually male dominant, and I don't mind it!
I actually prefer it over sis, darling, babygirl, honey, etc. all of which I tend to associate more with flirting - but then again, every person is different and some may be fine with things that others aren't. I let my close friends call me things I would never let anyone else call me, for example :)
I usually use "milady"
For example,
"Milady, make me a taco, please"
For example,
"Milady, make me a taco, please"
Just remember that this is an international environment. English is the official language, but that's foreign English, and it has an experanto role. Even if we all speak English that doesn't mean that we should all accept and digest slangish expressions that are peculiar of some specific neighborhood and its culture.
When someone in chat calls me "bro", my istinct is to reply "assoreta". Not a big deal, but if you ask about politeness and etiquette...
When someone in chat calls me "bro", my istinct is to reply "assoreta". Not a big deal, but if you ask about politeness and etiquette...
Buddy